Question (Animal Lovers or Vegetarians ) ?

Question

I grew up in an environment where I could witness live slaughter and so I have been vegetarian for ten years now. According to my religion, it is a sin to kill any living beings although none of the people follow this principle. I became a vegetarian because I felt guilt every time I ate meat.

I have also woken up nights just thinking of the pain animals suffer to the point of going crazy and so I have blocked all those kinds of thoughts.However, I married recently (paper marriage). We are doing a ceremony in few months back home. During the reception, there will be lots of food including goat meat (people's favorite). A lot of goats will have to get slaughtered for that.

Now me, I have not killed a single fly, mosquito or any insect knowingly for 7 years now. And just the thought of animals being slaughtered for my wedding reception, makes me feel guilty. Its like somehow I am taking part in it. I requested my husband to do a vegetarian reception which some people do as there are lots of choices for yummy delicacies. He agreed. But the problem is that his whole family will be a part of decision making process. I am just scared if they won't agree and I am not very strong to stand up against them.

I just dont want start my new life from the pain and death of animals.

Answer 1

His family don't have that much power. They'll understand. Being around meat is one thing, but insisting that it be at YOUR wedding is such an insult that's a line no-one crosses. Let your husband deal with it. Tell them it's important to you, and that you've not even killed an insect for so long and it's against your religion, and let your husband take care of the rest.

Answer 2

I would talk to his family. Let them know how passionate you are about having vegetarian foods only at the wedding. I know you are scared of them but if you say nothing you will only be feeling guilty and upset over this on your wedding day. You won't forgive yourself. Talk to his family and I'm sure they will understand. It's YOUR day. And if you say no meat they should listen. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well then you have to stand up for your self and your life and not get married. Why mention the paper wedding if you don't mean something by it?

If you don't love him, don't get married. Run away, find a refuge, get refuge status and claim that you need assistance.



His whole family blah blah blah. If you have access to a computer, do the right thing and escape.