Question:
She was intrested when I did nt talk with her. Recently I tryd to talk with her but she can nt remember me?
2011-04-06 00:38:12 UTC
One week, very frequently, I came across this girl and her body langauge (smile, walking pass me) sugested that she was comfortable with me. After that week I did nt see her for 5 months and suddenly I saw her last week.

She does nt remember me as my hair style N beard has changed.I asked her whether she was the one that I saw last year weaing a Dutch tri-colored skirt. She could nt remember me. N her body langauge, (smile and so on) maybe does nt look like the way it did last year . I did nt talk much with her last year but she was more comfortable .Last year I said only "you seem to be every where" to which she gave me a very welcoming smile. The next time i saw her she gave me a very shy smile. This year when I actually tryd to talk with her she is giving me more of a polite smile and she does nt remember me becuase my hair style and so on has changed.

Since she does nt remember me, is she thinking that I made up a story to talk with her, and hence think I am weird.If so I really badly want to fix the situation with her ? Maybe I did nt talk with her before (other htn saying "you seem to be every where" to which she stopped her walk and gave me a smile) but when I saw her after 5 months, she did not look soo much like a stranger for me and I very badly want to talk with her.
Four answers:
SarahT
2011-04-06 12:18:42 UTC
“Ok, soaccordingtoyou all, Since she does nt remember me, she IS thinking that I made up a story to talk with her, and hence SHE THINKS I am weird. I badly want to fix the situation with her ?”



I don’t know what she is thinking. She might just think “This guy must have me confused with someone else.” The best way to “fix the situation with her” is to never bring it up again. Seriously, if she wanted to be friends, she would have said something sooner. Continuing to pursue her could cause problems. And by problems, I mean restraining orders.



“And why this section,

Vegans I thought would be very considerate of what I am going through since they are soo considerate over animal rights.”



That’s where you’re wrong. Vegans love animals, but they hate people.... Kidding. Choice of food has nothing to do with this. I know some pretty mean vegans, and some really nice meat eaters. It depends on the PERSON, not what’s in their fridge.



“I am prety serious. If I was gona talk with a random gril, I would ve talked with her the first time I saw her. Also I would nt ve spend the last 8 months without a Girl Friend (serious or unserious) if I am so randomly picking up girls.There are a lot of loose girls,no one (in 20's and reasonable looks )needs to spend 8 months as a single.”



I don’t know why you don’t have a girlfriend, but I know plenty of good-looking single 20-somethings. Are you saying that you are waiting for this girl to respond? Because that still sounds creepy.



“If I was gona talk with a random gril, I would ve talked with her the first time I saw her .This time when I saw her (after 5month gap) I did nt feel like she was random and I got very excited 7 said what ever I said .Too bad she does nt know that for me it was nt random becuase she does nt remember the first time”



I don’t know what the statute of limitations on “random meetings” is, but I’m pretty sure 5 months without seeing someone you only a few times before (and never actually had any REAL conversation with) still counts as random. What makes you so sure this is the same girl anyway? 5 months is a long time. Maybe you’re confusing her with someone else. Either way, think of it like this: You’re walking down the aisle on a subway filled with people. You don’t talk to anyone and they don’t talk to you. You smile when you make eye contact with random people, but continue to go about your business. 5 months goes by and someone walks up to you and starts asking what you were wearing several months ago and asks if you remember who they are (which you clearly don’t). Doesn’t that sound a little weird to you?



Random is defined as: proceeding, made, or occurring without definite aim, reason, or pattern. without pattern: done, chosen, or occurring without an identifiable pattern, plan, system, or connection. Just because you remember seeing her doesn't mean that any time after that isn't random. Unless you were either following her, or happened to work/go to school at the same place you had know way of knowing whether she would be in the same place as you every day (which clearly isn't the case, since you go a year and then 5 months between seeing her).
Lindsey B
2011-04-06 13:49:25 UTC
I hate when people try to guess what some else's body language means. I smile at nearly everyone I make eye contact with, but that in no way should indicate that I wish to have a conversation with you. And should you say something to me and I smile back in response, it's not because I'm being "welcoming" it's because I don't want to actually take part in the conversation you are trying to start but don't want to be rude. It's just being nice. Manners. Commenting that "you seem to be everywhere" also sounds like you follow her around (whether that's the case or not doesn't really matter).



Seriously though, it sounds like you are creeping her out (and based on your story, I don't blame her). A one-sided short conversation with a random stranger on a train (or where ever your were) is hardly something someone would remember.
Lily Denyer
2011-04-06 12:32:18 UTC
yea, i doubt she remembers you. you only said one thing to her a year ago.
N/a
2011-04-06 15:04:47 UTC
Seasons don't fear the creeper...


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